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Tuesday, May 30, 2017

Today Tiffany turned 40 years old

Wow.  That is hard to believe!

In the mail today, we received these photo blocks from Tiffany for a combined Mother's and Father's day gift.   I love them.



Tiffany created a 40 by 40 bucket list.  I've been so impressed as she has accomplished them.  The photo on the right is a selfie of us when she accomplishing one of them -- to walk the Golden Gate Bridge.

Another two she had was to make Grandma Anderson's white cake and to make my fudge recipe. This weekend she did those.   (Fudge modeled by Luci and Annie).   She even created a new recipe from the fudge recipe by using white chocolate chips and crushed oreos.



She is going to give me a list of what the rest of them were, minus a few that she doesn't want going down in history on my blog.   Now she has me wondering what those are?

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, TIFFANY!

WE LOVE YOU



Monday, May 29, 2017

Gary's Beautifully Written Obituary

Gary Anderson(1937 - 2017)



1937 ~ 2017

Gary Stephen Anderson, 79, died peacefully at his home on Wednesday, May 24, 2017, due to the effects of Lewy Body Disease.

Throughout Gary's 79 years, he embraced his life and the people in it. He worked, served, studied, and played with exuberance and conviction. Gary wasn't a jogger -- he was a runner, always trying to push the pace. He danced and played the piano with similar gusto, in a manner that may have lacked finesse but always exuded energy and joy. And as a trial lawyer, Gary was a dynamic and spirited advocate -- laser-focused, meticulously prepared, quick on his feet, and unshakably ethical. 

But Gary was at his very best in the roles that mattered most - those of a son, brother, husband, father, grandfather, friend, counselor, and servant. He was, in those capacities, a generous provider of love, wisdom, friendship, and encouragement. 

Gary was born on August 29, 1937 in Green River, Wyoming, the first of five children to Golden and Charlet Anderson. When he was seven years old, Gary's family moved to Provo, Utah, where his father took a job at the Geneva steel plant. Gary fondly recalled his childhood years in Provo -- reading comic books (Superman and Captain Marvel), listening to radio serials (The Shadow and Jack Armstrong), and playing neighborhood games (Kick-the-Can and Hide-and-Seek). He especially enjoyed family road trips and gatherings, which typically involved lots of singing.
Gary's teenage years in Provo revolved largely around one person -- Lynn Fechser. Gary and Lynn dated and danced their way through Provo High school, spending most of their Saturday nights at the Avalon Ballroom in Salt Lake City, which featured Al Sedgley's Big band and some of the best dancers in the area. Gary and Lynn more than held their own with their lively jitterbug and swing dancing. 

Gary and Lynn's romance endured a three-year hiccup as Gary embarked on several life-changing adventures. In 1955, Gary graduated from Provo High School and began his college career at Brigham Young University (two years ahead of the younger Lynn). The following year, Gary fulfilled his military obligation by serving two months of basic training at Fort Ord, California and another four months at the Army Intelligence School in Baltimore, Maryland. And just two months after returning from the military, Gary boarded a ship to Brazil, where he served the next 2 ½ years as a missionary for the Mormon Church. Although Gary and Lynn corresponded only sporadically during Gary's mission, they quickly and excitedly reunited upon his return, and within a month they became engaged. 

On August 25, 1960, Gary and Lynn were married in the Salt Lake Temple. They both recalled feeling a surge of love and gratitude that day -- and of faith that their marriage would be a strong and happy one.
Gary was a serious student and graduated from BYU with honors. He and Lynn then left Provo for the vastly different environment of UC Berkeley, where Gary attended Boalt Law School. This marked the beginning of Gary's long and distinguished legal career, one in which he spent 32 wonderful years as a trial attorney for the San Francisco law firm of Farella, Braun and Martel. Gary loved his job and the people he worked with. He also proved to be an exceptional attorney, earning the prestigious selection as a Fellow of the American College of Trial Lawyers. 
Gary reached even greater heights as a husband and father. He and Lynn raised five close-knit children (Chuck, Cory, Britt, Leslie, and Christine), all of whom loved their home and adored their parents. To his children, Gary was a superhero - a fearless and wise protector of the family, and a champion of all that was good. They watched him intently and admired his example -- including his unabashed love and loyalty to Lynn, his professional excellence and integrity, his devoted church service as a bishop and stake president, his strong commitment to the gospel of Jesus Christ, and his insatiable desire to learn and improve.

Gary derived his greatest joy from his personal relationships. He always said that his happiest moments were those with Lynn by his side. To the very end of Gary's life, he cherished the interactions and activities that he and Lynn shared with their children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren - especially their joyous gatherings over Christmas and Thanksgiving. Gary and Lynn also enjoyed extremely close relationships and countless festive occasions with their siblings, nieces, and nephews. And throughout Gary and Lynn's 57-year marriage (including their final retirement years in Provo), they forged many deep and lasting friendships that enriched their lives immensely.
Gary is survived by his wife, Lynn; his children, Cory (Stacy) Anderson, Britt Calufetti, and Leslie (Scott) Manwaring; his grandchildren, Lauren (Jacob), Christian, Michael, Rachel, Kyle, Tyler, Steven, Sara, and Sadie; his four great-grandchildren, Daniel, James, Sterling, and Belle; and his four siblings, Richard Anderson, Tom (Lynn) Anderson, Charlene (Greg) Rynders, and Annette (Gary) Ashton. He was preceded in death by his parents, Golden and Charlet, and by two of his children, Chuck, and Christine. 
A visitation will be held Friday, June 2, 2017 from 6:00 to 8:00 p.m. at the Riverwood Chapel, 303 West, 3700 North, Provo, and again on Saturday morning from 9:00 to 10:30 a.m. Funeral services will be held at the same location on Saturday, June 3, 2017, at 11:00 a.m. Interment will follow at the Provo Cemetery, 610 South State Street, Provo, Utah.
In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the Epidermolysis Bullosa Medical Research Foundation (www.ebkids.org) or a favorite charity . The family extends special thanks to the caregivers from Hearts for Hospice Home and Health and from Aspen Senior Care for the service, compassion, and affection they provided to Gary. Condolences may be sent to the family at www.SundbergOlpinMortuary.com.

Saturday, May 27, 2017

Edgemont Elementary

as our girls knew, it will soon be no more.

I guess that is another lesson that change is inevitable.  We have lots of memories in that school.  We took these pictures this morning on a walk.


You can see the new building in the background.

Friday, May 26, 2017

It was nice

to come home last night.

When we pulled in, Natalie and Trent were here and had just returned from putting flowers on the family graves for Memorial Day.  The garden I was worried about surviving looked great, thanks to extra watering by Natalie and Trent.   Sharilyn brought over some enchilada's (yummy).   And everything looked so green.

I got the call from Britt at about 10 pm on Wednesday night, while sitting in the motel, that Gary had passed away.   I was glad he didn't have to linger on too long, and Lynn and the kids were all there with him.  I had been so conflicted about when to come home, but I felt like everything turned out as it should have.

Still lots of tears, but also a sense of peace.



 


Wednesday, May 24, 2017

I'm sitting

here in a hotel room in Burlington, Colorado.  We left Misty's this morning and needed to arrive here soon enough so that Gary could do his online independent study sessions from the motel.

We left a day sooner than we had initially thought we would, as my brother, Gary, is going downhill rapidly.  We expect that he may pass away before we get home tomorrow night. I feel such sadness.  I can't imagine a world without Gary in it.

The kids are gathered and Charlene and Richard are going to see him today.  Yesterday Natalie sat with him while Lynn and Leslie went to the mortuary to choose the casket.  I can hardly stand to write that, because it makes it so real.

He has definitely maintained the good fight and done it with grace and dignity -- even though it has been very hard for him.   The image I see in my mind of Gary, when he is free of his mortal body, is of him "striding."  Gary never did anything slowly, until Parkinson's made that impossible.  I love the thought of him striding forward, free from the physical bonds that have hampered his body.  I envision a joyous reunion with Chuck and Christine, Mom and Dad, and all those who love him who have gone on before.

I wonder if they are awaiting his arrival, just like we await the arrival of a new baby.   I just wish I could know now, and not have to wait until I have died to know about the details of this process.  But I have no doubt about the processes.

As I was driving in Kansas today and thinking about Gary, I saw a billboard that said, "If you died today, where would you spend eternity?"   Well, I  have no doubt where Gary will spend it.

When Gary retired, they had all the partners in his law firm write some "evaluations as partner without attribution."  They asked them to "Please write a brief statement of something you value or respect about Gary Anderson."  They were written on 3x5 cards and handwritten.  When I made them into a document and wanted to include them, he was very uncomfortable.  Gary always deflected the attention from himself.

He finally agreed to keep them in his history if it was prefaced with him saying,

"I include these 'Evaluations of Partners without Attribution' not to be self-congratulatory, but because they are meaningful to me from my valued associates.   But, I also wonder what the answer would be if they had asked "Write something about Gary that you do not value or respect!”  But we’ll never know.

Here is what they said:

  • ·      A thoroughly HUMAN being – Threw away the key – The most endearing person I know.
  • ·      Honesty, integrity, dedication and warmth – along with being a terrific lawyer.
  • ·      He always says “yes” and will repair the damage left by others without asking for recognition by the firm.  His hard work over the years when his family situation would have made anyone else ask for a leave or for help.
  • ·      Integrity and thoughtfulness.
  • ·      Wonderful personality and temperament.  Hardworking, with firm’s interest always at the forefront.
  • ·      I can’t comment on Gary’s professional skills, but I understand them to be top quality.  What I see and value is a man with overwhelming decency, and above all, grace, regardless of the pressures he faces.
  • ·      Gary is a thoughtful, fair, brilliant lawyer who exudes kindness.  He is a wonderful teacher.
  • ·      I respect Gary’s values and courage.  Through many difficult years, Gary has always contributed both in terms of work and in terms of being supportive of his partners.  I admire the fact that although he is of a different religious background than most of us, it never interferes – he is tolerant and accepting of other’s points of view.  Gary has a tremendous ability to verbally express himself and is great in front of judge or jury.
  • ·      Courageous and humble.  A classic litigator and wonderful partner.  The man to have in your corner, if you need good lawyering or just good advice.
  • ·      I value Gary’s trial skills, his tenacity, his refusal to back down in the face of adversity (such as the M-- case) and his energetic and effective efforts to build an employment practice.  I also appreciate what a nice man he is!
  • ·      Terrific role model – holds to highest values, even in times of personal/professional adversity.  A+ trial lawyer. 
  • ·      Your wonderful presence and stature and the class you bring to the partnership.   
  • ·      Solid human being, great common sense, sincere and moral; cares about people.
  • ·      Gary provides the moral antenna for the firm.  His open-mindedness and compassion are remarkable.  Of course, he is also an extraordinary lawyer, but I value his personal integrity most of all. 
  • ·      Outstanding human being and lawyer.  He is an essential part of the culture and fabric of this firm and sets an example for all of us. 
  • ·      Utterly principled, no hidden agendas.  The consummate trial lawyer.  Tremendous passion and warmth for all those with whom he works.  Loyal to a fault.  One of the best “Big Picture” lawyers I know.  Able to bring practical solutions to difficult problems. 
  • ·      By reputation, great trial skills.  By personal observation, great moral and ethical values. 
  • ·      Wonderful human being.  Great lawyering skills.  Strong mentor for younger lawyers.  Proud to have him as my partner.
  • ·      Gary is always there – steady as a rock- with solid, calm self-effacing advice – willing to work extremely hard and take risks others shy from.  Gary has an equally great skill in dealing with people- a pleasant and warm smile, a kind word, and beneath it the steel to bring in results like Mennen and Nissan.  It is a great comfort to have Gary as a partner, friend and lawyer in my corner.
  • ·      Friendliness.  Intensity.  Loyalty.  Legal skill and commitment to practice.  Practices development skills in general and empathy in particular.
  • ·      His character – compassion, integrity, honesty.  His skill and tenacity as an advocate.  His courage.  His friendship. 
  • ·      Gary has always had a kind and friendly word for me and anyone else I’ve ever seen him come across.
  • ·      Warm, outgoing and friendly.  I think Gary is also a decent human being who is a good moral compass.  An excellent grasp of strategy. 
  • ·      I admire your thoughtful views on issues that affect the firm and its people.  I also value the friendly way you interact with people and the respect in which your litigation skills are held by those who work with you.
  • ·      Aside from Gary’s outstanding legal abilities, Gary provides us something far greater – a thoughtful caring friend who always takes time to help others in the firm.  Gary never lets his ego get in the way of his contributions and always finds something positive to offer. 
  • ·      I value and respect Gary’s unflappable and caring nature.

Ok, I've got to stop.  This is making me too emotional.  I love him.







Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Best service

Ever at Oliver's in Warrenton.

Monday, May 22, 2017

It's been awhile

Since I've seen a coach pitch game. Marshall is so excited.

Saturday, May 20, 2017

Last check

that everything was in place for the big graduation open house.













Friday, May 19, 2017

So proud of this girl!

She gave a wonderful speech at graduation. 















Thursday, May 18, 2017

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

We got to see

Marshall in his award assembly today.  It was so fun.

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Monday, May 15, 2017

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Grateful to be a mother,

and grateful for the mothers in my life.   It's been a wonderful day, with Natalie, Trent, and Gary in the kitchen making a wonderful dinner/breakfast and getting sweet messages from the kids and grandkids.





Right after church we went to Gary and Lynn's, and Natalie sang for Gary.

I did a lot of crying, both listening to Natalie sing sentimental and beautiful songs and seeing Gary so weak.  Yesterday when I delivered the latest version of the history to him, I was feeling encouraged. Today, I'm not.  Through it all he is being so positive.  When I asked if he was too tired to hear any more, he said he never gets tired of hearing Natalie sing, but he is very agitated and was hurting today.

Lynn is amazing through it all.  She has been a caretaker for Chuck and Christine and her brother, Charlie, who had cerebral palsy.  I have been so blessed by Gary and Lynn in my life.  By their examples and by their love.




Saturday, May 13, 2017

I hope they

survive while we are on our journeys.   Its a whole new area to landscape.