When mom died 18 months after Dad, it felt like all the wind had gone out of us. When Dad died, we felt such loss, but we also felt the responsibility of making sure Mom was Ok. But after Mom died we just felt lost. I can so clearly see us sitting at Mom and dad's kitchen table deciding what to put on the front of her funeral program. We mentioned some scriptures or poems, but none of them seemed right for Mom.
Some time after Dad had died, I had read an article where the writer said she had been at a funeral where a son got up to speak about his father, but was so overcome with emotion, that all he could say was "He loved us." When I mentioned that article to the family and said how touched I had been by it, everyone piped in almost simultaneously, "that's Mom." Let's put "She Loved Us" on the the front cover. Mom was not a scriptural or flowery person, but one thing we all knew was that "She Loved Us." That could have been Mom's banner. I planned to scan in the funeral program, but it's way too late. I'll do it tomorrow.
I miss Mom. I miss her laugh and her interest in all things family, particularly her grandchildren. I can often picture how Mom would react to my grandchildren, I know she would "get a kick" out of some of the things they do. Who knows, she's probably getting a few "kicks out of them" even though she's not here.
She would be so happy that we have stayed close as a family and continue to get together and enjoy every-one's company. And, I have no doubt she would have come back to haunt us if we every had any problems with the splitting up and dividing of the estate. She warned us that there better not be any problems or we would be in trouble. I don't know if that is why everyone bent over backwards to be fair and thoughtful, but I've never felt as much love and respect for my family as I did at that time. I feel very blessed.
Happy Birthday, Mom.
5 comments:
Thank you for sharing on mom's birthday. I thought of her yesterday as I do almost every day, and how much i miss her, and wish she were here to see her grandchildren and great-grandchildren, and to see that all of her kids love each other and do everything we can to stay in touch. Love you mom!!!!
Great tribute to mom by each of you. They broke the mold after she was made. She not only loved us but she loved life. And, I have no doubt that she still watches and smiles.
She did love us! In fact, I think she loved me best. But maybe she just made all of us feel that way. Thanks for the tribute. You are just the same. Love you.
Annette-
Thank you for that. I never new that Grandma was born in Bingham. That's really a really interesting story. I hope I can be half the mom-grandma she was. I'm so glad you're still blogging.
I can't believe Angie didn't have a rebutle to Tiff's comment. I was always sure she loved me more that anyone else. But the great thing about Grandma was that everyone felt that way!
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